So being happy is what life is all about right? WRONG. Facebook and Twitter, maybe even blogs to a certain extent, have put a lot of pressure on people to appear happy all the time. You see many a happy photo and many a happy status about how happy everyone is (or you see a depressed song lyric and think ‘wow not on Facebook, this is for happiness’ – though to be honest, why must you do that?) and you wonder ‘wow, I’m not having this good a time, what’s wrong with me?’.
The truth is nothing. Well when I say the ‘truth’ I mean what I think. What I think is really all I have to offer, but that’s why you’re reading after all, so prepare! Maybe happiness shouldn’t be the aim here, what’s wrong with being ok? I like to think that bumbling along, being at peace within myself is a good goal, being ‘ok’ is in fact my goal for this year.
One of my friends was telling me the other day about her stressful day at work, and then at the end felt the need to apologise to me for complaining. Dumbfounded I said ‘no worries’ cos I’m a top bird like that, but why is it people feel this pressure to be happy around others, even if those are people we’re meant to feel close to? Arguably that pressure is the source of a lot of these problems to begin with, starting a bizarre and painful cycle.
Before I go on I do want to point out the difference between people who are unhappy and people who love being miserable, although we are guilty of both sometimes, everyone knows that person who enjoys being miserable and everyone wishes that person would stop it and stop it NOW. My point is its ok that you’re not always ok, and don’t feel pressured into having to feel something you don’t feel. There will always be pressure on you to be happy, but try to ignore the external pressures, because ultimately the biggest pressure is coming from inside your own little noggin there ‘points out of computer screen at your head’.
So don’t worry if you don’t feel ok right now, take a deep breath and accept a cyber hug from me. Have a lovely day…